Friday, December 26, 2008

Holiday Hangover

We've had such a great time over the past week! Our drive went well (despite my illness) and we arrived in Oklahoma safe and sound on Friday evening. After spending the night at my grandparents' farm, we journeyed on to my parents' house and the madness began! In the past week we've celebrated a birthday (my cousin's), been blessed with a wonderful baby shower (for Flippy), visited the urgent care clinic (me), and spent lots of time with family. When I don't post for a long time it's difficult to get everything--especially in a very busy week like this one--but you get the idea.

TOIAW left today for a very brief brothers-only weekend in Las Vegas. I miss him but it is giving me time to rest and recuperate from whatever illness I still have (the urgent care doctor said tonsillitis but I highly suspect it's just a sinus infection; either way, I began feeling better once the antibiotics kicked in). He just called me and it sounds as if things aren't going as well as he hoped. I suspected this may happen because, well, his brothers have been almost mean to him lately. I wish I could think of a better word but I'm not feeling particularly articulate this evening. His older brother seems almost belligerent every time they speak and apparently today was no different. TOIAW has always idolized him and, although his love for him will never change, I can tell his opinion of his brother his is changing (for example TOIAW is realizing his brother isn't as wise as he previously thought nor is he the least bit open-minded) and that's difficult. There's so much more I want to say but it's probably best that I don't. I just hope I can be nice to him when we're together next week. Unfortunately, TOIAW's twin is just as bad or worse. He constantly harasses TOIAW about his hair loss. Mature, right? Okay, so maybe his hair line is receding but it began happening after TOIAW attended and passed the most difficult school offered by his branch of service. TOIAW passed the course; his twin brother dropped-out of the school at least twice. In any event, what normal 33 year old makes fun of people for things like this? He teases TOIAW constantly--calling him names that most tweeners would find too juvenile--and I plan on telling him next week that neither this, nor any other degrading comments will be acceptable once Flippy arrives. I'll do my best to bite my tongue and not suggest that adult behavior on his part would also be a good model for his own son. Oy! This is not what I intended on posting tonight...

Tomorrow is another big day! I'll be attending an afternoon first birthday party for my cuter than words nephew and a wedding in the evening. Somewhere in there I also plan on buying some fabric for a quilt for Flippy and, hopefully, a nap. I'm sure there are many great sales out there but I'm just not in the mood for shopping, plus, we don't really need anything. I'm a little overwhelmed by all the "sale" emails flooding my inbox! Anyway, Sunday PP and I will pack up and meet TOIAW in Dallas that evening to begin our drive to Florida. Seriously, I have no clue why we thought driving was a good idea. The one major bright spot, however, has been having PP with us; I miss her so much when I'm away from her. I hope there is room in the car for all our new baby paraphernalia and PP. For now I'm going to just lay here and watch my belly move...you have to really know what you're looking for but it does move. Too cool!!

Wednesday, December 17, 2008

I feel better already...

I was just writing a check and found a $50 Pottery Barn gift card tucked away in the checkbook. Cool!

Deja Vu

It's 6:50am and for the past hour I've been asking Dr. Google if there are any "new" safe cold medications for use during pregnancy but it doesn't readily appear that there is the case. Darn. I was really hoping someone had conducted a drug study or trial in the past six weeks. TOIAW feels very badly about passing along his cold but he did remind me that he was able to get over his in relatively quickly so I should as well. I didn't have the heart to tell him he was able to take medicine to mask his symptoms and speed his healing. Oh well, it's a small price to pay.

I'm definitely staying home from school today but will go to my OB appointment this afternoon. I also need to accomplish a few last minute errands and pack the car. Well, I won't actually pack the car I will just make a pile of the things we're taking and TOIAW will pack the car. Once I loaded the car with something like two small suitcases and he looked at me said, "Rachel, don't you know anything about combat loading?" Ummm, no sir, I do not. I must have missed that day at basic training for wives. Shall I drop and give you twenty? Needless to say, I won't be loading anything other than myself for this trip. I should probably also do some laundry today but if it doesn't get done (translation: if Laundry Boy doesn't do it), I'll bring home dirty laundry just like the good ol' days.

After our appointment yesterday, I promised TOIAW we would run errands and that's just what we did. I'm the proud owner of a new ID with a horrible picture. We then walked over to the office where they handle pay issues--we're still having them--and I was able to see the total lack of concern TOIAW has been dealing with for the past few months. It was a small office and a little crowded so I left when things started getting louder. He was assured all issues will addressed in the next two weeks. It will be like winning the lottery.

Ahhh, our appointment! It was so fun to see her--and know she's a her--moving around. The doctor was fabulous and explained everything she was looking for and measuring. I didn't even consider that Flippy would have any major problems so the relief I felt after finding out she is healthy (you know, as much as they can tell at this point) was surprisingly overwhelming. Happy tears were shed many times yesterday!

I'm off to rest and drink more hot liquids while telling myself it's just as good as Nyquil.

Tuesday, December 16, 2008

The Results Are In...

Flippy is a GIRL!!! We're thrilled but not because of the gender as much as the second detailed ultrasound showed a healthy baby :) An early Christmas gift, indeed...and probably the most beautiful one I've ever seen.

I have more to say but I'm afraid that, in the giving spirit of the holidays, TOIAW shared his cold with me. I don't feel awful--yet--but I'm headed to bed early before it gets to that point.

Sunday, December 14, 2008

Calm Before the Storm

TOIAW hasn't been feeling well* so we've had a very low-key weekend. This is especially good since we probably won't enjoy too much relaxing until early next month. We're not leaving until later in the week but a busy week it will be. Our second "big" ultrasound is Tuesday and then I have another appointment Wednesday. I tried my best to get out of this double feature but no luck. I was told the ultrasound is to check the baby and the other appointment is to check me. I understand and I know it's for the best so I'll try to concentrate on that when I'm fighting traffic two days in a row.

Part of the problem is I am receiving treatment at two different facilities. Initially, I was told this wouldn't be the case but that's just not true because when you're of advanced maternal age you actually receive a series of ultrasounds, not just one big one. If I were a patient at the ultrasound hospital, I could also have my routine monthly check-ups there and take care of two things at once. This is one of the reasons we are considering switching treatment facilities but I'm not going to worry about that until after the holidays.

I guess my brain is sluggish from all this relaxing because I can't think of anything to say tonight. I'm off to bed where I will read another chapter in a little book I've dubbed The Breastfeeding Manifesto. It's actually difficult for me to concentrate when I'm reading it because all I want to do is highlight portions for the blog book report I plan on writing. As a preview I will just say that some people have very extreme views on breastfeeding. I knew that already but some people are seriously hard core. If I saw them on the street, I would expect them to be wearing a shirt that says "Extreme Breastfeeding: Just Do It."

*Believe me, Gutsy Mom, when he has an ailment he's not afraid to let me know and after I hear about it for long enough I issue an ultimatum: Either do something about it, or stop complaining.

Thursday, December 11, 2008

Next Stop: Florida

Are you familiar with the saying The couple who shares generic Metamucil together, stays together? TOIAW doesn't find it all that funny, but I do and that's really all that matters. He probably doesn't think it's funny because at his one of his appointments a few days ago, the chief remedy for his ailment was fiber, fiber, fiber...and a minor--but I'm sure very uncomfortable--procedure next month. Thanks to some, ahem, issues I'm having the extra fiber is also coming in handy for me. And that, my friends, is why you can find us side-by-side every evening sipping our organic OJ and generic Metamucil. After I finish this post I'm going to write them and pitch a new ad campaign.

Unfortunately, I was unable to attend TOIAW's first appointment the other day because I was waiting in line to park the car. I waited 45 minutes for it to be my turn and then had the following conversation with the parking attendant:

PA #1: "Lady, you can't park here. This is only for handicapped people."
Me: "Okay. Just curious, why didn't your colleague tell me that when he walked up to my window to tell me it would be a bit of a wait before there was a space available?"
PA #1: "I don't know. Yo (to his colleague), why you didn't tell her this was the handicapped line?"
PA #2 "No, Dawg, she's good. (to me) You're good, Ma'am, you gotta 'DV' on your plates for disabled veteran. You can park here."
Me: "But I'm not a disabled veteran and neither is my husband."
PA #2: "Was he hurt in the war or anything like that?"
Me: "Well, yes, actually but he's not disabled. He didn't even miss a day of work when he was injured." (I have no idea why I added this tidbit and, for the record, he should have missed work because the email he sent me while under the influence of pain medication was anything but coherent.)
PA #2: "See, Ma'am, you are just real honest and that's so great. Most people would just park here anyway. If you want to, it's okay, I'll authorize it."
Me: "Ummm, no, thank you. One day I might need one of these spots but today I don't. Could you please just tell me where the regular parking is? And, might I suggest you have better signs pointing people towards parking? Thank you."

What I didn't say is, "IF YOU WEREN'T ON YOUR PHONE AND WERE ACTUALLY PAYING ATTENTION, I WOULDN'T HAVE WASTED SO MUCH TIME!" Nor did I mention that I'm quite sure he doesn't have the authority to authorize a lunch break much less illegal parking.

Once I got inside the clinic/hospital, though, I longed for the solitude of the car. This place is a mad house! The individual clinics were nice and orderly but the common areas were crowded chaos. We will have the chance to experience it all several more times because TOIAW was approved for a nose job! I told him he could be like the women in Iran who were bandages on their noses as a status symbol. He didn't seem interested. Bless his heart, because I outed him on his snoring, he also has to do a sleep apnea test even though the doctor confirmed both his nasal passages are more than forty percent blocked and that is the most likely culprit. When they're done with him, he'll be like-new!

You know, between the two of us we have an inordinate amount of doctor's appointments. I have two next week, in fact. Retirement is going to be great because it will give us a chance to schedule appointments anytime rather than having to do so around pesky things like work. I'm just a little worried that we are getting old before our time. For example, in addition to our vigorous doctor schedule, we had dinner the other night at 4:30 and I was asleep before 7...but not before I had my generic Metamucil!

Monday, December 8, 2008

Lucky Few

You know when you read the pregnancy books and websites and they warn that some women have morning sickness throughout their pregnancy? I'm beginning to wonder if that's going to be me. Granted, today--thankfully--is the first time in a long time I've had an entire day of nausea but it seems like I've had more random recurrences lately which is both uncomfortable and a bit scary since I feel like I'm not getting the nutrition Flippy and I need.

I went to school with TOIAW but had to leave before my class began. My teacher was very sweet about it and I hated to leave but I wasn't fit to learn. Because I cancelled with less than 24 hours notice, I don't get to make-up the time which makes me feel rather guilty about wasting taxpayer money...then again, with this auto bailout thing, I suppose I'm hardly the least of the taxpayers' worries. But please know I'm going to diligently work on learning one hundred new words and phrases this week.

Oh, the adventure TOIAW and I had this weekend when we went to do a baby registry! We left the store 2.5 hours later feeling as if we had just run a marathon minus any endorphin-induced highs. I completely didn't expect it to be overwhelming and stressful, but it was. TOIAW felt the same way and that's rather unusual for him (although for him it was more because he didn't think the store layout lent itself to registering in a 'systematic' way). I felt more than a little inadequate when I saw at least two women with voluminous books containing baby gear reviews. I had done a little internet research and knew a few things I wanted but it was no where near as easy as choosing a crystal pattern. In any event, we now have one registry with what I hope are useful items and it's all set for our first shower which will be in my hometown over the holidays. It's early, I know, but my aunt insisted and resistance is futile.

Tomorrow TOIAW has an appointment with a ENT who will--I hope I hope I hope--recommend him for surgery to repair his deviated septum and allow me to have a peaceful night's sleep. The appointment is at a military hospital and TOIAW is very excited to wear his uniform displaying his new rank. He was very cute about going and buying new patches!

Well, Flippy is kicking which just goes to further remind me that I had zero servings of fruits and vegetables yesterday and even though I had a lovely salad for lunch, I'm not sure how much of those nutrients were absorbed before, well, you know. So, yeah, this motherhood thing is one big guilt trip already!

Wednesday, December 3, 2008

Dear TOIAW,

If I spent several hours yesterday making flash cards and memorizing 50-75 new vocabulary words and today, while writing sentences, occasionally ask for your help to ensure said sentences are coherent and grammatically correct you should probably not "help" me by replying--in an annoyed tone, no less--rapidly in a language you have heard since birth but I have only been learning for four weeks. If you insist on doing this, however, and I collapse in a hormonal crying fit and you, realizing the situation has reached critical mass, are finally able to tear yourself away from the no doubt riveting information you were reading on the computer and guiltily embrace/smother me to the point where I cannot breathe and begin coughing and sobbing, I just might lose my breakfast on you. You know, just something to keep in mind. I bet you wish you had read this earlier, huh?

Much love,
Your Wife

Monday, December 1, 2008

Promises, Promises

Yesterday I told you that I had a long post written but I accidentally erased it. In the post I gloriously announced that I had been nausea-free for over a week. HA HA HA. Today has been horrible. I guess it could be the flu, but I don't think so. Now that I think about it, I could hear those hormones laughing at me while I typing last night...